complaining

I am starting to understand better why whining is such a drag. I always thought, because I personally have liked to whine A LOT, that whining helps you to get something off your back that you are dealing with. But this is a lie, and if believed in it can really hurt yourself and those around you. God's word in 1 Thess 5 tells us to "Be joyful always...", and how are we helping ourselves and those around us to be joyful? When we complain the tone we express is negative, not only do we not set our mind on joy, we commit others a fight against negative thoughts.